Interpersonal Neurobiology – The Key to Being Heard and Understood
“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will determine our influence.”
~ Bill Crawford
Creating A Resistance To Shame
“As long as we use shame as a driver for self-improvement, or to learn from the past, we will forever be trying to do good by feeling bad… not a very effective strategy.”
~ Bill Crawford
How to Deal with Problematic Triggers
“In order to have as much influence as possible in our life and the lives of others, we must be careful (full of care) not to mistake the “what” (or the triggers in our life) for the “why” (the cause, or reason we react the way we do).”
~ Bill Crawford
The Problem with Getting Triggered by Unimportant People
“When we give unimportant people the power to trigger us, we make them the most important person in our life!”
~ Bill Crawford
Why Are People So Hard Headed?
“When attempting to convince or influence others, unless what we are saying resonates with how they see the world, what they care about, and how they see themselves, the only thing we are convincing them of is that we don’t get it.”
~ Adapted from Lisa Cron
How to Maximize Our Influence
“The first key in being able to influence others, is to ensure that our insistence isn’t creating more resistance.”
~ Bill Crawford
The Neuroscience of Self-Determination
“Regardless of the problem, as long as our solution requires someone else to change, we will never know the power and promise of self-determination.”
~ Bill Crawford
How to Break the Cycle of Stress and Frustration
“All of life is a cycle of cause and effect. In order to break the cycle of stress and frustration we must do more than just change the cause or change the effect… we must become the cause.”
~ Bill Crawford
Avoidance
“When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void”.
~ Bill Crawford